Where has the time gone?
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
We just vegged. It was nice because we have been so busy the last few weeks.
Tonight is Pack meeting. I hope all goes well. Hopefully, I won't forget to bring everything.
I'll include pictures later.
For all the nonlazy stuff yesterday, We went to one of the Orange county parks along the West Orange Trail and took our usual walk with Jen and her fam. This was the first time for Garrett and the whole time he kept saying, "Mom what are you trying to do kill me!" By the time our walk was done, we had walked a little over a mile. Jen's daughter decided she was tired of riding her bike, so she let JT ride. He loved it. Loved it so much that now I HAVE to go out and fix the flat on his second hand bike.
After the walk, we let the kids play and met up with Karen Pilcher there. I drifted back and forth between conversations with Jen and Karen.
When we got ready to leave, I unlocked the car and asked the boys to go in and buckle their seat belts. I talked to Karen for a few more minutes and went to get the car. They had done EXACTLY as I had asked them to do. They were all buckled up and ready to go. I was so excited that I decided to take them to McDonald's as a "thank you" for being so obedient.
We drove home, cleaned out the car and then left for Karen's for our afternoon activity. We let the kids play on her waterslide for a while and then we did leaf rubbing with the leaves we picked up yesterday at Leu Gardens.
In the early evening we went to Autism Gym, a program that our good friend Joanne Houwsers set up for the special needs children in our area to play. During the summer, we get to use the city pool for one hour a week. All to ourselves. Its so nice. One of the moms is the mother of one of the girls that Garrett talks about marrying someday. "S" is in his class at school. Well, we had a good discussion about the church. We talked about how in our church we are sealed to our families in the temple and how important being a family is.
We had started talking out the subject because I had just found out that one of my friends has a 14 year old daughter who is pregnant. I was thinking about how I would love to adopt this daughter's child. Mainly for my purely selfish reasons. "S's" mom asked what happens when a child is born into a single mom. I had to tell her that sealing doesn't happen unless the child can be sealed to a mother and father. I heard myself say the words and I just felt like I had told someone someone had died. And I felt that it was "S's" family that I had put the nail in the coffin for. I want to share so much with her because she had a great family. I hope I didn't scare her off. I continued to talk about how important family was to our religion, but it didn't seem the same after that. I really need to work on having the spirit.
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Please forgive me if I sound a little upset trying to relieve my day for the third time.
Karen Pilcher and her family and me and mine went to Leu Gardens and saw a lot of things. The kids were kids and we went to Mickey D's after.
Wow, in two sentences I have just summed up everything that took me ten minutes to write the other friendly happy way. I must be tired. I promise one day when the kids are listening to me I will sum up the day better. Right now Garrett and JT are laughing instead of going to bed.
She found out that if you went in before 12 on Mondays, you could get in for free. It was really neat. I had never been there. Since I have been gardening, it was neat to see what plants could actually grown and look great in our area.
I especially liked the veggie garden. I have been planting a garden of my own. Like the Leu Gardens, I have tomatoes, bush beans, corn and oregano. They had a lot of other neat things like okra, squash, celery, broccoli, fennel and kale (among other things). It was nice to see what other people have been able to have grow. It gave me some good ideas of what I could plant next February/March.
Right now I have three cucumbers that are almost ready to be pulled. I have three ears of corn. They weren't ready to be roasted on the grill, but maybe next year I'll have them in earlier so they will be ready.
For the most part the kids did really well. We had six kids and it would have been worse, but we did alright. They are kids in a place that they have never been to before and was full of neat colorful stuff. It was hard enough for me not to want to touch. I don't blame them for wanting to walk in the plants.
After the gardens we went to Mickey D's and had some ice cream and let the kids play on a playground. An Air conditioned playground. It was the first time Karen and I had had a real adult conversation the whole morning.
When we finally got home I was a bad mom and let the kids veg the rest of the afternoon. It was already after 2:30 by the time we got home.
Sunday, May 27, 2007
Garrett's talking to me about Star Wars again. How many times have I talked to him about it? I keep telling myself that this is just him. Its just his autism and that it is just how he is.
Now he's asking to talk to his dad. Todd's at work and I've already told him five times that we can't bother today. He never wants to take NO for an answer. How can I distract him with something else? I need to cut his hair. I just asked him if he wanted me to. He said no and ran out of the room. Oh, he's back. Now he thinks its just a game I'm playing.
I am reminded of the scene in Gone With the Wind, when Rhett is three sheets to the wind and he has Scarlett sitting at their huge dining room table. She has humilitated him in front of the whole community. Rhett stands behind her and places his hands on either side of her head. He figures if he squeezes hard enough he will be able to squeeze Ashley Wilkes right out of her head. Somedays I wish I would press his head just enough that the autism would pop right out.
The other two are playing around now. I hear Garrett with JT saying, "Don't hit me with the lightsaber...yet." I know they are playing dog pile in the living room. "Now kill me." "I'm not going to kill you." Their lightsaber fights are so animated. Ryry the third is now playing referee. "Ma, he won't give it back to him." in his cute little three year old voice.
I keep telling myself that someday, I will miss these moments. Someday when they are grown and gone and Garrett is still wanting to play lightsaber that he and I will miss these moments.He's still asking for the phone. I've told him "no" ten more times. Now he's trying to dial numbers. All this because Todd left for work without saying goodbye to him this morning.